Online individual therapy for gay men
Therapy for loneliness
Sometimes what you miss is someone you can ring after a difficult evening. You may have friends you see regularly and still hesitate over whom to call. Or a relationship has ended, and the man you used to tell about your day is the very person you want to talk about.
You might also be spending much more time alone than you want. Moving to a new city, losing a friend or finding yourself outside the circle you shared with an ex can change an ordinary week quite abruptly. I’d want to understand what you miss most. Having someone to make Sunday plans with is a different wish from wanting an old friend to ask how you really are.
Online, one-to-one, in English · First session: 60 minutes, €135 · Check where I offer therapy
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Someone you used to see without making plans
After a breakup, people may ask whether you’re ready to date again. Meanwhile, you’ve lost the person who knew why Tuesday’s meeting mattered and would have asked how it went. I might ask, “When did you reach for your phone this week, and who did you wish you could tell?” Sometimes the answer is one particular man. There’s room to miss him, even if ending the relationship was your decision.
When other people think you’re doing fine
Perhaps you did see a friend on Sunday. He asked about the breakup and you gave him the short version. I’d be interested in what happened there. Did he change the subject just as you wanted to say more? Did you deliberately keep it brief because he’d repeated something private before? Or would he have listened, and you found yourself saying you were fine almost out of habit? Each answer suggests a different conversation about the friendship and what you want from it.
Your question
Can I bring this up if I have a partner and friends?
Yes. You can love your partner and miss having gay friends of your own. You can also have people who care about you and feel that there’s a part of your life you rarely get to talk about. We can start with whichever relationship comes to mind.
More questions
Why do so many gay men feel lonely?
Studies regularly find gay men report more loneliness than straight men. Years of hiding parts of yourself can make closeness feel risky long after the need to hide has passed. Social lives built around apps or nights out can also leave little room for being known. None of that is fixed.
Is loneliness a reason to see a therapist?
Yes. You don’t need a diagnosis or a crisis. Loneliness that lasts can affect sleep, mood and how you see yourself, and it often has a pattern that is easier to see with someone else.
Can therapy help if I’ve moved to a new country?
Yes. Starting again somewhere new is one of the most common routes into loneliness. Sessions are online and in English, so you can continue if you move again, as long as you live in one of the countries where I offer therapy.
What is the difference between being alone and being lonely?
Being alone is a circumstance. Loneliness is the feeling that the connection you have doesn’t match the connection you want. Some people enjoy a lot of time alone, while others feel lonely in a crowded room.
Booking
Your first
session.
- First session: 60 minutes, €135, paid when you book
- Ongoing sessions: 50 minutes, €135, or £115 in the UK, billed monthly
- Usually weekly, with no package commitment
Payment is non-refundable and cancelling needs 72 hours’ notice. Full terms.