Online individual therapy for gay men
When dating apps or hookups feel hard to manage
You open the app for five minutes and lose the evening. Some nights you enjoy it. On others, you’re still checking long after you’ve stopped wanting to meet anyone. One more message seems worth waiting for, even though you’d struggle to say what you’d do if it arrived.
Or the hookup itself was good, and what bothers you is how you feel afterwards. You might want him to stay for coffee, feel relieved when he leaves, or find yourself checking whether he’s back online before you’ve got home. Which part you’d like to change is something I’d ask you about.
Online, one-to-one, in English · First session: 60 minutes, €135 · Check where I offer therapy
Working with me
The point when you wanted to put the phone down
I might ask you to pick one evening. What made you open the app? At what point would you have liked to stop? Perhaps you were enjoying the conversation until a man went quiet. Now you’re checking his profile, annoyed that someone you’ve never met has managed to occupy the rest of your night.
We can look at why his reply mattered that evening. Wanting sex, wanting company and wanting to know you’re still desirable can all land you on the same screen. You get to say which of those fits and what you’d like your evenings to look like.
Frequent use doesn’t by itself mean addiction, and I don’t start from that assumption. If drugs have become part of sex, my guide to chemsex and therapy covers that separately.
Your question
Do I have to want to stop using the apps?
No. You might want to enjoy hookups and spend less time looking for them. Or you may want to take a break. We can work with the change you actually want to make.
More questions
Is Grindr addiction real?
Compulsive app use is a recognised pattern, though it isn’t a formal diagnosis. What matters more than the label is whether your use matches what you want, and what it costs you in time, sleep or mood.
Why do I feel worse after using dating apps?
Apps mix small rewards with frequent rejection, and both can keep you scrolling. Comparison and being judged on a few photos can leave you feeling flat, even on nights that went well.
Can therapy help if apps are affecting my relationship?
Yes. Whether the apps are part of an agreement with your partner or a secret from them, we can look at what they give you and what you want to do about it. You come on your own.
Booking
Your first
session.
- First session: 60 minutes, €135, paid when you book
- Ongoing sessions: 50 minutes, €135, or £115 in the UK, billed monthly
- Usually weekly, with no package commitment
Payment is non-refundable and cancelling needs 72 hours’ notice. Full terms.