Online individual therapy for gay men
Therapy for anxiety and self-doubt
The evening went well. The next morning you’re still going back over the thing you said at dinner. You can remember your exact words and the pause that followed. What everyone talked about afterwards is harder to recall.
You might recognise the same effort at work. A meeting is hours away and you’ve already rehearsed how to introduce yourself, including whether to mention your husband if someone asks about the weekend. Sometimes you can name what you’re worried about. Other mornings you wake up on edge and have no idea why.
Online, one-to-one, in English · First session: 60 minutes, €135 · Check where I offer therapy
Working with me
What happened at dinner
I’d ask you to take me back to the moment that stayed with you. Perhaps someone made a joke at your expense and everyone moved on. Perhaps nobody reacted much, and it was the silence you found difficult. The difference matters. I want to hear what the room was like before we draw conclusions about how you read it.
We might also look at what happened the following morning. Did you text a friend to check whether you’d sounded odd? What did his reply settle for you, and for how long? That gives us a particular difficulty to work on, including the hours it takes up after everyone else has gone home.
Your question
Can I come if people think I’m confident?
Yes. You may handle the meeting well and still lose sleep over it. You can bring both parts of that experience into the room.
More questions
Is overthinking after social events a sign of anxiety?
It can be. Going over what you said, and how it landed, is something most people do now and then. It becomes worth working on when it takes up hours, follows most evenings, or stops you saying yes to things. You don’t need a diagnosis to start.
Why do gay men experience more anxiety?
Research consistently finds higher rates of anxiety among gay and bisexual men. A large part of that is explained by minority stress, the strain of growing up and living with stigma, including years of watching how you come across. It isn’t a personal failing, and it can change.
Can online therapy help with anxiety?
For many people, yes. Research generally finds online therapy comparable to face-to-face therapy for common difficulties such as anxiety. It is less suitable if you need crisis or emergency care.
Do I need medication to start therapy for anxiety?
No. Many people come to therapy without medication, and some use both. I don’t prescribe. If you’re thinking about medication, speak to your GP or doctor, and therapy can run alongside it.
Booking
Your first
session.
- First session: 60 minutes, €135, paid when you book
- Ongoing sessions: 50 minutes, €135, or £115 in the UK, billed monthly
- Usually weekly, with no package commitment
Payment is non-refundable and cancelling needs 72 hours’ notice. Full terms.